Real Talk: Just one day a week

To preface this post, my mother watches Lazy Baby while Mr. LL and I are at our day jobs. She comes around 8 every morning and leaves when Mr. LL gets home (he’s usually home anywhere between 4:30 and 5 in the evening). When I was pregnant, I didn’t want to assume or impose upon my mom, who was already dealing with her mother-in-law who has her own health issues that need to be dealt with, by asking her to take on this task. However, over last Thanksgiving, when I was talking about my hunt/research into daycares my mother stopped me right there and declared herself “daycare” and that was that.

Since coming back to work, things have been working out. My mom will need the occasional morning/long lunch/afternoon for doctor’s appointments and for the most part, I’m able to accommodate. However, the bigger Lazy Baby gets, the harder it is getting for my mom to handle the day to day of it all. We are at that awkward part where she ways a ton and isn’t mobile, so it puts a strain on even Mr. LL who carries 400 lb. water heaters on a regular basis.

So, last week, my mom asked if she could have one day off a week. A day where she could schedule appointments and to just, ya know, not carry a giant baby around I guess. I completely understand, and she is doing us such a HUGE service by taking the burden of childcare off our plates, that I want to be able to accommodate this request. I asked around for people who watch kids, contacted a couple (one was asking for WAY too much for us to be able to afford and the other is pretty busy), and I even called a couple of daycares (only to discover that all state accredited daycares have to assign a crib to a baby and no other baby can sleep in it – in other words, they weren’t going to do a one-day a week deal with me). I thought about asking my work if I could four days a week for 10 hours a day, even though the thought of not seeing my baby at all those four days breaks my heart (she’d be in bed, more than likely, by the time I would get home).

It kept me up a couple of nights. Mr. LL had a suggestion for someone close to our family but I don’t feel like this person would treat Lazy Baby the way I want her to be raised (not that this person would hurt her in anyway or anything like that, she just has a very different personality and is very strong willed). Him stressing the fact that we really can’t afford outside care and suggesting that this person was “our only option” didn’t help my anxiety.

I did come up with a temporary solution; I spoke to my boss about it, and we marked out a 2-5 days each month so my mom could pick one day a month to have off (aside from the usual holidays and etc.) and I would just use a vacation day that day. I’ve been at my current job for just over 10 years now, so I have a lot of vacation time and Mr. LL doesn’t have as much so I usually have random days I have to take here and there anyway. I know this is just a bandage on the situation, but maybe it will buy us some time to figure out a solution to this problem.


Real Talk: The Day to Day

 
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First, I just want to thank every one who took the reader survey last week! I’m going to keep in up through this week, so if you haven’t taken it yet, I suggest you get your votes in now! It will be going down next Monday.

I wanted to do a Real Talk post just catching up on how things have been since the arrival of Lazy Baby. It has been a HUGE adjustment, but I knew it was going to be one. I’ve been really trying to find a good balance between work/motherhood/life/blogging/sleeping and tbh blogging fell pretty low on that list when all was said and done. However, I’m starting to get a bit more settled and into some kind of routines, which is a term I am using very loosely, so I feel like I can start wading back into the blogging pool.

I’m definitely going to be upping the affiliate game on the blog because having a baby is expensive. Pre-baby, I was getting burned out on affiliate posts and thought about working them off the site; post-baby and I’m trying save every penny and hustle every dime. Besides, affiliate links don’t cost you, dear reader, anything. My content is still free and if you happen to buy something using an affiliate link then I get a few pennies. (Comment below if you would like a more in-depth post about affiliate programs and how they work).

My days went from lazy to feeling like I can’t do enough after LB (Lazy Baby). As where before, I’d do the dishes in rotation with Mr. LL and same with the laundry, I’ve more or less started to do those during the week and Mr. LL gets them (for the most part) on the weekend. Here’s a look at my typical day during the week:

  • 6:30 am - LB wakes up (if she hasn’t already :/ ); I get up and heat up her bottle, then change her diaper and pass her off to Mr. LL (who has hopefully gotten up by this point–otherwise I badger him till he’s up and able to take the baby).
  • 6:45 am - Get the coffee pot going while I make lunches for Mr. LL and myself.
  • 7:15 am - Do the dishes from the night before.
  • 7:30 am - Take a moment to enjoy some coffee/help Mr. LL find everything as he runs out the door to go to work.
  • 7:45 am - Make all the bottles for the day (LB is only drinking formula these days).
  • 7:50 am - My mom shows up to watch LB. Talk to her for a bit and help her get LB set-up in the highchair for breakfast.
  • 8 am - Get ready for work. 
  • 8:30 am - Out the door and off to work.
  • 9 am - 5:30pm - Work. Sometimes I have to stay later or I get leave a little early, it just depends on the day and the workload.
  • 6 pm - Get home and immediately go change clothes. Then I’ll take LB from Mr. LL (who got home around 4:30/5pm) and play with her until it’s her dinner time.
  • 6:30 pm - Either Mr. LL or I will feed her whatever purée she’s currently enjoying, then trade off and the other will feed her a bottle.
  • 7 pm - Say “night night” to daddy, and I take LB into our bedroom–which we are still sharing with LB–and change her into her pajamas. Then we sit on the bed and read a book together and we cuddle till she starts to fall/falls asleep. I put her in her crib and pray that she stays asleep for the night.
  • 7:30 pm - During the time I’ve spent playing with LB and putting her to bed, usually Mr. LL has made dinner, so we eat now. We’ll have the monitor on and spend the next few hours hanging out, talking, watching a show or two and unwinding.
  • 10:30-11:30 pm - Momma goes to bed. Mr. LL will sometimes stay up playing a video game, but I’m usually out. Oh and before bed, Mr. LL will wash any dirty bottles still hanging around and make a bottle so it is ready in the fridge for me to grab in the morning. 
  • During the night - Some nights LB sleeps through, but lately she’s started getting up again, two or three times. Sometimes I can just pat her on the back and she falls asleep, other times, I have to put her in the bed and she EVENTUALLY falls back asleep for awhile. The latter is usually when she gets up somewhere between 4:30-5 in the morning and I am NOT about to get up and start the day then. So I let her snuggle up with us for another hour or so.

So yeah, as you can see I’m not left with a ton of free time to blog. The weekends are spent cleaning the house, grocery shopping, recharging and, more recently, taking LB on outings. This past weekend we took her to a nearby park/bird sanctuary. She really lit up seeing all those birds. It was going to rain soon, we only had about an hour and she stayed in the stroller the whole time. Hopefully we can plan better and maybe have a picnic or something out there on a sunny day.

That’s about it for me right now. I’m going to be trying to post more regularly, but it may be a minute before I find my groove again, so please be patient. Also, I’ll be doing some design tweaks here and there, but nothing too intrusive.

TTYL!

 

Growing Pains

It's official, Lazy Lady has hit it's first round of growing pains. I'm going to be shifting some posts to different days (some content may get replaced entirely, dun dun dunnnn), so please bare with me as we get through this period.

I want to keep a schedule on here, so you and I both know when things are going up, but I'm still ironing out the kinks.  I'd love to hear from all of you what your favorite content on the blog is right now. Also, is there anything you miss from the old blog? I hope you will take the time to leave a comment down below.

Thanks.